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Christian singles

Best places to find a single man who loves God

What are the Best places to find a single man who loves God? As a single lady that loves God you want to meet a man that loves God with all his heart. There are many born again believers dating sites. Finding the man that God has for you does not have to be difficult. One of the first things that we must do is put God first in our search. God did tell us in the word of God that he would give us the desires of our heart, Psalms 37 – 4. Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

Does God truly give you the desires of your heart? As a single have you ever asked the question, “If God gives me the desires of my heart, why am I still single?” Of all the questions I’ve been asked, this is probably the number one question. To understand this Scripture fully, it’s important to put it in context.

“Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him” (Psalm 37:5-7a, NIV).

Today, if you’re struggling in your singleness, don’t lose heart. These verses are key in helping you with your frustration of being single. Is your delight, your joy, in the Lord? This is vital for anyone to have true joy.

The first 20 years of my life I put much of my joy in my boyfriends. My mood swings went from high to low depending on how a relationship was going. I later realized my joy was in a man, not in my relationship with the Lord.

Our delight must be first in the Lord. It must be priority in our lives.

Second, are you “trusting in Him and doing good?” Countless singles are doing their own thing, not trusting in Him, much less doing good. Many are dating unbelievers and choosing an impure lifestyle.



One of the things that we must focus on is our relationship with God. The Bible says in Matthew 6 – 33 that we must seek the kingdom of God and everything else that we need shall be added on to us.

Seek — pursue relentlessly — God’s Lordship over your life and the righteousness that he demands in your daily life. The other stuff you pursue is all temporary. Only God and his Kingdom remain. In the process of pursuing God’s kingdom and his righteousness, you will find that the God who gives you his Kingdom and righteousness, also will bless you with the things in this life that you need.


in this video below is a great message about how God must be number one in our life all the time. If we don’t put God first, God cannot work in our life like he wants to. Let us know also what you think of this video message.

Spring is in the air, which means gambolling lambs, magnolia in bloom and a new crop of men and women thinking: “Oh no! Must I start dating again?” and “Oh Lord! How on earth do I meet someone?”

Being thrown in the dating pool when you’re of a certain age (or older) is not a bundle of laughs. But remaining alone after the loss of a partner or a bruising divorce is even worse. So, all over the country, people right now are picking themselves up off the floor and having a go. There’s no doubt it takes courage. As Judi Dench, playing widowed pensioner Evelyn Greenslade in The Second Best Exotic Marigold Hotel, says: “The difference between what we want and what we fear is the width of an eyelash.”

On the plus side, there are advantages to mid or late life dating. Women who’ve been married and had their kids already are probably less hung up on commitment. Men, in turn, are likely to be moderately house trained. “You know a man who’s been married can probably roast a chicken and replace a washer,” says life coach Nina Grunfeld, founder of Life Clubs. “They’re also aware that women are three-dimensional, rather than permanently wearing sexy lingerie.”

But how to meet members of the opposite sex? And how to present yourself?

To meet a Godly man who loves Jesus you must focus your attention to God’s direction. However, you do not need the Internet to meet the man that God has for you. One of the main things that we must understand that as children of God, is that we must wait on God’s timing and not our timing. His timing may be tomorrow or maybe next week or maybe next month or possibly Christmas time. One of the things that we must do is be our best and know that God is getting us ready to meet the one that he has for us.



January 20, 2016

“Our first date went well, but he’s not that strong in His faith, and…” She paused, almost apologetically. I completed her sentence. “And you desire to date a man who loves Jesus like you do.”

“Well, yeah…Yes. Yes, I do.” Her apology turned to confidence in speaking the desire of her heart. I experience this scenario often.

At the age of eighteen, attending Daily Mass became an integral part of my life. I found fulfillment and deep personal peace through the beauty of adoration. I was sold out for big worship and looking for big ways to build the Kingdom. Following Jesus Christ was the single most important aspect of my existence.

During this time and into my twenties, I knew one thing I wanted above all if I was going to be dating. If I was going to date, I wanted to be with a man who really, really loved Jesus…even more than I did, and even more than he loved me.

I knew my own heart and knew that I needed to date a man who could lead me. There was no question about it, I did not want to be spiritually leading a relationship.

I desired a Christ-centered relationship and I wanted to date a man who shared in my love for all these things that were so deeply integrated into my daily life. It was extremely important to me that if I was going to be in a relationship, I wanted it to be one with a man who had a profound sense of Catholic spirituality. I wanted to date a man who loved Jesus more than I did because I wanted to learn and be challenged to grow.

I held no judgment against men who did not share in my faith or my love for Jesus, I just knew that they were not the man for me. And sisters, there will never be anything wrong with knowing what you want and what you need.

I speak with too many women who feel judged for upholding their standards…frustrated by having to explain it to friends or family…many of them share about the questions and the pressure from other people…Wellyou could be missing out. No, one will ever meet your standardsWhy don’t you just give him achanceYou’re being too picky.

Women, there is no place for apologizing for what you desire in a relationship. There is no place for having to explain it to anyone, either.


More than anything, the message I’m trying to send to you ladies is to not settle for less than what God’s promise you. You deserve to be loved and cherished for the woman that you are. Yes, you can have standards. We all are attracted to different people for different reasons. However, the first thing you should be attracted to is his love for God. How does he treat other people? Is he put other people ahead of himself. Is he kind is the general.

If you would like somebody to pray with you, you can email me at You can also call me at 937 – 550 – 6433.

Have a blessed evening.





How to believe God for mate

As a believer, one thing that you may desire is a mate. Whether you’re a man or woman, God said he would give us the desires of our heart. And Proverbs 18 – 21 it says that he that find a wife finance a good thing and obtained in favor of word. The first thing we have to understand is if God is going to give us a mate, we have to make sure were walking the walk with God that he wants us to. We have to make sure that were putting God first.

Three college friends and I sat in a hotel lounge, chatting about our younger days. “What was I thinking? The signs were all there, telling me he was Mr. Wrong,” one of them said as she sipped her latte. “I didn’t see the red flags ‘cause I was too busy being in love with the idea of being loved.”

“Me too,” my other friend said. “Why didn’t someone write the book on how to find the man of your dreams?”

All four of us chuckled. We graduated from the same college, lived in the same dorm. And, though none of us would admit it, we shared similar restlessness about finding the right man. We attended classes but in that college campus, what we secretly studied was the male population, hoping one of them would be husband material.

In general, the search was fun. But at times, high expectations ended up in deep disappointment. And other times, the “love” we chased ended up with heartache chasing us instead.

But even with a few scars, we made it through. And now after three of them divorced, leaving me as the only one who is still married to my college sweetheart, we possess a wealth of insight. Most of which comes from experiences lived, episodes endured, and lessons learned in the classroom of pain.

How different our lives would have been if we only had the wisdom to heed these signs.


How many of us have been hurt by past relationships and maybe even marriages? Why do people get married then divorced? There are many reasons, but God is not the author of divorce. When we get married we need to stay married and through the storms of life and a marriage, with God’s help we can withstand any storm that may come our way.

I don’t believe that society’s definition of “soul mate” is healthy or spiritual. It’s great for the movies and Hallmark cards, but no one’s marriage is like the romantic movies you’ve seen.
A good friend of ours is divorcing her husband because she bought into the lie that God wants us to “be happy” in marriage and that He would bless the idea that her happiness would be found when she was freed from her current spouse to find her one, true “soul mate.”

Like most other people, she has this fantastical, unreal notion that God brings together two lost hearts who experience true compatibility in all the deepest longings of their being. Most people think that your soul mate is someone with whom you never argue and spend endless days of hand-clinching romantic walks on the beach. No hardships, no struggles, just starry-eyed wonder for the next 80 years.

The truth is, a soul mate isn’t someone you find, it’s someone you intentionally and prayerfully become.

Anyone in a successful marriage can tell you that “success” in marriage doesn’t come from finding that one person you were meant to be with. It only comes from giving up the selfish behavior that served you while you were single, and focusing on selflessly serving your spouse instead.

A happy marriage requires a completely different mindset than the 50/50 concept most couples enter into marriage with. The idea that “If I do my 50 percent and Sabrina does her 50 percent, we will have a happy marriage” is ridiculous. Sabrina and I are both imperfect people and we both make mistakes on a daily basis. One of us will always feel disgruntled, thinking that we are contributing more to the happiness of the relationship than the other.

The only way to have a happy marriage is if I take the selfish focus off of myself and put 100 percent of my energy into serving Sabrina and she does the same with me. If I am focused 100 percent on serving Sabrina, I don’t even realize when my needs and desires aren’t being met, because I’m not focused on my needs and desires, but hers.


When we enter into a marriage we have to enter into with 100% commitment. We must put her needs above the need of our mate. Just like we must put God first and everything else will fall in line like it’s supposed to. We cannot truly be successful unless we put God first.